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Helen Adrienne, LCSW, BCD
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  Solutions

“Got Problems? Let’s Find Solutions”

Life on Planet Earth is not easy. Throughout history, there have been seers and soothsayers, clerics and philosophers who have guided their flock. I am trained in one of the 21st century’s versions of that role.

Some problems respond well to coping styles that can effect a change relatively easily by cognitively rearranging circumstances to relieve the situation. Other problems do not give way by making simple changes because of the way that our behaviors and emotions can complicate things.

Finding solutions flows from a process of us working together to evaluate your situation and lay out a map of the issues, behaviors and emotions and to sort through choices in a systematic way. Often our learned limitations curtail the implementation of decided-upon changes. There are many techniques that facilitate working through obstacles and fears so that you can move on.

A big part of this process is based on the alliance between you and me. You must feel that you are with someone who is skilled and has your best interests in mind. We should like each other and you should not feel judged.

The process is an interactive one, talking to each other, making assessments at each step along the way, building your confidence to stretch to the next level of your capacity. All along you should feel supported and validated so you can build confidence to risk making changes and ultimately integrate new behaviors into your personality.

None of us, men, women or couples, are exempt from finding ourselves in a rough spot from time to time. Sometimes it is difficult to be objective about our circumstances or even about our feelings. At times like this, it can be a relief to reach out for help so we can feel happier and calmer.

If you are in simpatico with a mind/body orientation, then you understand that difficult circumstances that are experienced as mentally uncomfortable can impact the body. Conversely, physical issues can impact the mind. And it is not difficult to imagine the impact of any issue on a relationship.

When it comes to the physical experience of being either male or female, our psychobiology is intricately tied up with fluctuating hormones that affect both body and mind and can be very challenging. If ruled by estrogen and progesterone, then menstruation, PMS, pregnancy and menopause is complex and can be disruptive. And testosterone controls the male physiology and much of the mentality as well.

When it comes to infertility, men who learn that their sperm count is compromised often mistakenly confuse masculinity with the capacity to procreate. And certainly, the lion’s share of the treatment for infertility is an ordeal which rests predominantly, though not exclusively with women.

It is paramount to feel understood and grounded at times when you might feel that your natural hormones or the hormones administered as part of the In Vitro Fertilization protocol are making you feel like a runaway locomotive. Many of my referrals come when a Reproductive Endocrinologist who asks the simple question, “How’re you doing?” If you answer by bursting into tears, the benefit of having someone to talk with can provide enormous relief.

If you are struggling with any of the issues below, you may be experiencing a difficult swirl of emotions including feelings that are overwhelming. Today, medical doctors have more knowledge than ever before, and therefore patients have more treatment options. The sophistication of these options can make the decision-making process dizzying. Many women, and the people close to them, can find comfort in having a caring therapist with whom they can talk.

IF YOU ARE STRUGGLING WITH....
 YOU MAY BE FEELING...
Infertility or gynecological and reproductive issues
Depressed, shocked, angry, guilty, jealous, helpless, confused.
Miscarriage Defective, abnormal, angry, cheated, at fault.
Ovum Donation Out of the mainstream, fearful.
Sperm Donation Confused about honesty with loved ones.
Surrogacy On edge for the long haul.
Adoption Overwhelmed, out-of-sync with your spouse, pessimistic.
High-tech Pregnancy Up against your last hope and feeling like a lab animal.
Pregnancy Excited one minute, in crisis the next. Afraid of childbirth.
Stillbirth Agonizing grief.
Postpartum Depression Overburdened, ungrateful, ashamed for having these emotions, depressed, hopeless.
Premenstrual Syndrome Like Jekyll and Hyde and desperate for a solution.
Sexual Difficulties Cheated, frustrated, worried, ashamed.
Sexually Transmitted Diseases Contaminated, stigmatized, unworthy, ashamed.
Abortion Issues In a total quandary.
Menopause Physically hot, emotionally cold, a stranger to yourself.
Premature Menopause Unready for a change of life experience.
Hysterectomy Robbed of femininity.
Relationship Issues Lonely, in gridlock, longing for answers.
Family Issues Ruled by chaos, in need of clarity.
Parenting Issues Like you need more information.
Depression Exhausted, disinterested, isolated, unfocused.
Anxiety You are racing nowhere and cannot settle down.